Which reality will you choose? What you want to believe or the truth?
Since the social media happening, most people post their great accomplishments and most perfect moments. Unfortunately, people like to compare themselves, although they admit it and say that they don’t care and it’s just for fun, it’s not. All you need to confirm this fact is to open an instagram session and #fitnessmotivation you will get caught up quickly by the fact that it’s easy to be overly motivated with these kind of shapes and ‘’memes’’. Don’t get me wrong, I am in no way down playing those who can achieve these types of physiques as I actually admire them and all the discipline that comes with it.
Now let’s tell it like it is. We often (well, most of us) have to tell new clients what they should hear, read the complete opposite of what they want to hear. Unfortunately, only a small percentage of them will actually understand and go on with the program.
Let’s go back to the ‘what they don’t want to hear’ part. Only a few of the few have actually said that they actually eat garbage. No one ever came in the office vulnerable and started telling me all their possible weaknesses. Rarely have I heard someone tell me they need help, they actually say that they know what to do, but still fail. No one wants to say or show weaknesses, it is human nature, the art of war, never show vulnerabilities. We all know them, very well, but society has made it impossible for someone to show them, or we may look like a failure.
We must never forget that you are only as strong as your weakest link. The biggest mistake one can make is to always focus and work on their strongest skills. I am not saying that you have to share it with everyone, but be realistic and aim for constant progress with a realistic and ‘personal approach’. It’s ok to get the help of professionals like trainers and coaches, who know a thing or two about achieving realistic goals, your own goals, not those based on someone else’s shape or ideal. Fix ideal goals for YOUR body and YOUR lifestyle.
We know exactly what most want since we, trainers, were there at one point in time. We all had the same thoughts and abnegations, rejecting the facts. What we had to give up in order to be what we wanted to be. Some did, others are still trying, and we are talking about trainers here.
As soon as we start talking about what needs to be done, the reality of it all, eyes begin rolling and all kinds of excuses start to show up.
As soon as they start losing excuses, they start finding their results.
Everybody wants a great ass and abs to show off, but do you have what it takes to be in the few who can actually make it happen?
Now, once the contract is signed and sessions are well underway, the honeymoon sessions are fading away. Results are starting to slow down and it is getting harder and harder to see constant progression. Special occasions seem to pop up and test your ability to ‘’stay clean’’. The fact of the matter is this; you are not getting weaker but your motivation is. The workouts are getting harder and it may also be the fact that you have let go a little on the nutrition side of things. Would I do my job as a trainer to give you easier workouts as the weeks go by? Not at all! Is it what you were expecting? Not at all! People seem to think that it will keep getting easier and it is a big mistake. If you grab your ass at the gym it will. If you never change your programs it sure will. Change is never easy, but it will get you where you aim to be.
You can watch all the inspirational videos or motivation pictures out there, but let me remind you one thing, those very people you see in them went through the same hardships, had all the same excuses, and most are still struggling to stay in shape year round. They should also post the reality behind these posts and pictures and the hustle they went through. The perfect pose, the months dieting, the perfect lighting (or filter), it’s always more than just a simple quick snap. Some of them do and I salute them.
With that being said, that’s reality for me right there.